Christian Codependency Counsellor / therapist - Mississauga, Toronto, Oakville, Ontario
About codependency, Heal Codependency, Codependency Therapist
Why is it so hard to Heal Codependency?
Why is it so hard to cure codependency issues?
Do you believe that our lives get set on a particular path in childhood? I do.
Do you believe that some drive or motivation arising in childhood can be so strong that it remains the key driving force in a person’s life? I do.
Do you think a personality pattern can be established in childhood that has the momentum to continue for half a life-time? I do.
Now codependency fits right into the above patterns. It is part of a path that is set in childhood. It reflects a motivation or drive established in childhood. In fact it is one aspect of a personality pattern that has been established in childhood.
The fact that codependency is a reflection of a fixed personality pattern provides a clue as to why is is so hard to change. People live within the perceptions, beliefs and emotion of their personality. It is not so easy to ‘look in a mirror’ and be different.
As a psychotherapist I have made it part of my mission in life to discern and understand personality patterns. It is also part of my mission to guide people in recognizing and transforming their personality pattern.
Psychotherapy with those stated objectives cannot be undertaken by anyone. It is a job for a highly skilled professional. The understanding of how to transition out of personality patterns is not widespread even among professional counsellors, psychologists and psychiatrists.
So do not be surprised that it is hard to cure on one’s own and may even take some time working with a professional. A 12 Step Group can help be raising awareness and providing support and accountability. These are big steps in the direction of a cure.
Do you believe that our lives get set on a particular path in childhood? I do.
Do you believe that some drive or motivation arising in childhood can be so strong that it remains the key driving force in a person’s life? I do.
Do you think a personality pattern can be established in childhood that has the momentum to continue for half a life-time? I do.
Now codependency fits right into the above patterns. It is part of a path that is set in childhood. It reflects a motivation or drive established in childhood. In fact it is one aspect of a personality pattern that has been established in childhood.
The fact that codependency is a reflection of a fixed personality pattern provides a clue as to why is is so hard to change. People live within the perceptions, beliefs and emotion of their personality. It is not so easy to ‘look in a mirror’ and be different.
As a psychotherapist I have made it part of my mission in life to discern and understand personality patterns. It is also part of my mission to guide people in recognizing and transforming their personality pattern.
Psychotherapy with those stated objectives cannot be undertaken by anyone. It is a job for a highly skilled professional. The understanding of how to transition out of personality patterns is not widespread even among professional counsellors, psychologists and psychiatrists.
So do not be surprised that it is hard to cure on one’s own and may even take some time working with a professional. A 12 Step Group can help be raising awareness and providing support and accountability. These are big steps in the direction of a cure.
Can Codependency be healed?
Can codependency by Healed?
Of course codependency can be healed. And, for gosh sake, it is not a disease that needs healing it is a tendency to help, support and rescue people in a responsible way. There is much positive about the person who is codependent (A Rescuer) to others.
Codependency is an example of a personality pattern that was developed in childhood. With psychotherapy you can shake it and assert yourself as a more balanced and authentic person. It is not an addiction. It is not a disease. It does not cause any immediate herm to yourself or others.
The ‘Codependent’ is a supportive person in a relationship with an addict. The addict is the dependent - dependent on drugs or alcohol. The codependent is the friend, partner or spouse of the addict. that is all there is to it. There is, of course, a danger in established patterns that they perpetuate themselves. Without intending to the Codependent may perpetuate the alcoholic in their addiction. When this happens the codependent is call an Enabler.
So here is a personality pattern that is somewhat dysfunctional and got set up in early childhood. So. what is new? Most of us start life in some personality pattern or another. For each of us there will be new levels of freedom, authenticity and life satisfaction is growing out of this patterns.
There are aspects of the pattern that you can begin to shift yourself. Do more self care. Get help setting better boundaries. Learning to deal with the critical inner parent voice in your head.
Al-anon should be a great place to get insight and pointers about the pattern. It is there to help you change. follow the 10 step program. It is about change and a great program.
However these personality patterns are firmly planted in our memories, core beliefs and assumptions. It is highly unlikely that you will succeed in breaking free on your own without the support and interventions of what I call a 'life transformation' therapist or psychotherapist.
Of course codependency can be healed. And, for gosh sake, it is not a disease that needs healing it is a tendency to help, support and rescue people in a responsible way. There is much positive about the person who is codependent (A Rescuer) to others.
Codependency is an example of a personality pattern that was developed in childhood. With psychotherapy you can shake it and assert yourself as a more balanced and authentic person. It is not an addiction. It is not a disease. It does not cause any immediate herm to yourself or others.
The ‘Codependent’ is a supportive person in a relationship with an addict. The addict is the dependent - dependent on drugs or alcohol. The codependent is the friend, partner or spouse of the addict. that is all there is to it. There is, of course, a danger in established patterns that they perpetuate themselves. Without intending to the Codependent may perpetuate the alcoholic in their addiction. When this happens the codependent is call an Enabler.
So here is a personality pattern that is somewhat dysfunctional and got set up in early childhood. So. what is new? Most of us start life in some personality pattern or another. For each of us there will be new levels of freedom, authenticity and life satisfaction is growing out of this patterns.
There are aspects of the pattern that you can begin to shift yourself. Do more self care. Get help setting better boundaries. Learning to deal with the critical inner parent voice in your head.
Al-anon should be a great place to get insight and pointers about the pattern. It is there to help you change. follow the 10 step program. It is about change and a great program.
However these personality patterns are firmly planted in our memories, core beliefs and assumptions. It is highly unlikely that you will succeed in breaking free on your own without the support and interventions of what I call a 'life transformation' therapist or psychotherapist.
Poor Boundaries in the Super-Responsible / Codependent
Poor Boundaries: 1. What makes it so hard for co-dependents to recognize when they are being used and abused?
2. Why do co-dependents put up with stuff that most people won't tolerate?
2. Why do co-dependents put up with stuff that most people won't tolerate?