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Weekly blessings a format that is short, simple, positive and achievable.
It is important that no-one dominates.
Each person feels respected and plays on equal part.
My solution is to have a weekly time of prayers associated with some feedback and goal setting.
Each one sets some goals for the next week. Lets say three goals. Write these down somewhere and you will have a record of your goals and answers to prayer.
Ask the other just to pray the blessing of God upon these goals. You do not have to add a lot of fancy words just a prayer of blessing upon your partner/spouse.
Once this is started you may have a time of thanksgiving for goals accomplished and prayers answered. You can make note of that as well.
Choose a regular night of the week for this and then just keep it up. Set goals for the week - maybe three. Share your goals with your spouse and let them pray a simple blessing on your goals.
Mutual Goals Visualized
When you have a mutually agreed on goal to achieve then agree on what the end result looks like. What is your desired outcome. When you agree together in prayer picture this outcome. Agree on it and pray that it be done in Jesus name.
Note #1: Spend time with God in listening mode before you set such goals. Prayer is not imposing on God but agreeing with God or partnering with God.
Note #2: To set spiritually realistic goals with your faith capacity ask yourself, ‘Is this something I can see happening?” If it is something you can see happening then it is something within your heart faith capacity to pray for. If it is something you can see happening, then move ahead and pray for it.
Prayer when the other is verbally critical or aggressive
There are three prayers to use when your partner is very upset and expressing it.
1. You are the Lord ‘What should I say.’ Or should I say anything?
2. Forgive your partner by letting go of any need to get back at them, to hurt them. ‘I let go of my anger at my partner expressed as any kind of hurt, revenge or getting even.’
3. Be a channel of the bitterness, hurt and sin that your partner is expressing toward you. Channel it to Jesus. Let the work of Jesus on the cross absorb it. “I let this flow through me to you Jesus.’ Please take care of this that my partner is expressing.
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