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Secrets of the Heart

9/1/2017

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Secrets of the Heart - G. Hartwell 2017 - www.HealMyLife.com

What are the secrets of the heart?
The heart has processed all of our personal experience and created our own personal model of life from them. That means the perspectives, beliefs and motives of our heart are solidly rooted on our personal experiences and means in our memories.

Emotions live in our memories so emotional healing means healing of our memories.
Passions and motivations live in our  emotional memories so healing of our emotional memories shifts our motivations and passions.
Learned attitudes resulting in learned behaviour patterns are stored in our heart (unconscious or emotional brain) so healing of our memories will correct our attitudes and social patterns

All of our emotional memories are stored as events, dramatic events, personal events in our heart. Memories that are not personal will not have an emotional tag and will not be stored in our emotional brain. Instead, a non-personal, non-emotional memory will be stored in our verbal, intellectual brain. So our heart contains the memories most important to us, our protection, mission and success.

We can recall nonemotional memories more easily then emotional ones. For some reason the heart treasures memories and does give our conscious mind easy access. However we need to get access in order to get healing of our emotional wounds/memories.

You experience emotion when an event triggers a memory stored in your heart ( emotional-brain). When a cluster of memories is triggered it is an opportunity to get in touch with those memories; bring them to conscious awareness and discover their secret.

How we try to change and why it does not work.

What this means is that you cannot change the heart by telling it something different. But we all try and keep on trying to change what is most fundamental to us with instructions, education, insights and plans. We discover in time that none of this shifts our heart. The heart is not interested in words. It pays attention to emotional experience, in particular stories.

It is the story that the heart remembers not just the feeling and not just the lesson learned. The feeling and the lesson are imbedded into the story and kept like that in the heart. The heart is a treasure chest of stories.

The Secret Way to Change your Heart

However the stories can be edited and rewritten if you know how. One of the secrets of the heart is how to rewrite the story. This has only been discovered recently.

Every time you retell the story with emotion it can be edited and rewritten.

Every time you recall the story with emotion is can be edited and rewritten.

1. It can be edited if we remember it differently. Maybe someone remembers the same event and adds some details. These could be incorporated into the story  in the emotional memory.

2. The conclusion embedded into the story can be edited if at the same time that we remember this event we also remember other significant events that shift or correct the perspective imbedded in the emotional memory’s version of the story.

3. The perspective embedded in the story can be changed if through listening to God we perceive a significantly different perspective from God - a revelation. This is called prayer therapy. Here are the steps involved.
4.  Pray for the guidance of the Holy Spirit in finding the memory connected with an fresh emotional experience.

  1. Get in touch with the feeling in the memory.
  2. With the help of the Holy Spirit put into perspective what seemed to be true at that time and in that story. What perspective, conclusion or belief is locked into the story.
  3. Pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal God’s perspective, conclusion or truth to you and listen to God.
Therefore every unpleasant emotional experience can be your pathway to healing of your heart. Just take the feeling to God in prayer. Locate the memories in the past that associate with this feelings. Discover the perspective present in the memory. Ask God for His perspective. You can do this in bed before you go to sleep.


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